Thursday, March 4, 2010

Seeking Validation

Luke Ford says:

There’s one genre of movies that always turns me on — underdog sports dramas. I love them.

I watched The Rookie (about Jim Morris) tonight (about four years after I watched it the first time).

I was struck about how it plays on common movie themes — the need for the protagonist to be validated by his spouse and father.

This is a pathetic need if you give in to it. You don’t need others to validate you. You can validate yourself by making the right decisions (or making peace with paying the price for bad decisions).

Over the past 15 years, I’ve often had nobody to validate my most important decisions.

I can’t think of anybody close to me who told me the following were the valid decisions:

* To convert to Judaism. This came solely from within myself.


* To use singles ads in Jewish publications in 1992, 1993 to meet girls to help me recover from CFS


* To abandon shomer negiya (not touching the opposite sex) and start sleeping with women in 1993

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